All, In the Name of Regret
We've all made mistakes we wished we could go back and change. Regret is a powerful adversary and robs so many of a bright future. Okay....so you messed up big time in your marriage, ate one two many burgers over the last 15 years, and destroyed a handful of friendships along the way. I get it, but we should never move forward still stuck in our past. Regret just holds you prisioner, when Jesus died to set us free.
I regreted for years the pain my divorce caused my son. That regret flowed over into my parenting. I would let things slide sometimes, that I shouldn't have. I would overcompensate with everything. Harming him even moreso in the process of attempting to make amends. Unintentionally of course, that was not what I wanted to do by any means. But, during this time I could not see past the overwelming regret that haunted me. You can not heal what is broken, by moving in and operating out of brokenness yourself. A negative can only be changed by a positive. A lie can only be defeated with the truth.
If only, I had tried harder.... If only, I hadn't of given up so easy... The what if's, paralyzed me as a person and as a mother. Unknowing to me at the time, that regret was only leading to more regret. Regreting what happened and what you can not change, does you or anyone else any good. It will only hold you prisioner to a past you can not change. Regret doesn't teach us anything. The truth of what we did, what happened, and how we've responded to it. Is the only thing that can teach us to handle things differently than before. The truth will not focus on the problem, but goes to the root of what caused it. Setting us free in the process.
Unforgiveness is usually where regret stems from. It's where most things stem from. True forgiveness can only be found at the feet of Jesus. You can not give what you do not have. Sure, many say they forgive in their own efforts and strength. But, I don't believe it. Forgiveness is not acceptence, its not a hardening of one's heart to deal with things easier. Some unforgiveness is so deep, that we don't even know its there. Some things were too painful, some things were too devastating and in an effort to survive... We surpressed them. Calling it forgiveness and it is not. It has only been through following Jesus through these things, that I was able to truly forgive. Defeating the regret. His faithfulness led me there and His love sustained me in the process.
Father, I love you and I'm so grateful for your faithfulness in all things. Thank you for removing me from the prison of regret and setting me free. You are so good. Thank you Father, that your mercy's are new every morning. That I can start new and fresh, everyday. Forgiving and choicing to leave that which can not be changed in your capable hands. To right all wrongs and restore. Thank you that you bring all things to light, bringing truth where there are lies believed. I thank you God for your kindness and goodness. You are so good to me. In Jesus Name I Pray, Amen
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