50 Shades of BDSM For Beginners

50 Shades of BDSM For Beginners

4. Research the materials you’re going to use. Certain types of wax (like beeswax) burn too hot to be used during temperature play. Look up rope-tying techniques so that you’re never cutting off circulation on your partner’s body– that can be incredibly dangerous. Check with your partner to see if they’re allergic to latex or any other material commonly found in sex toys.

5. Safety is always a priority. Some critics of the books have actually said that this point is one of the few tenets of BDSM that is done particularly well, so good work, E.L. James. You can copy her lead with a few safety tips. Make sure you keep some emergency scissors around if you’re doing any bondage, and never leave a bound person by themselves. Don’t ever break the skin or strike someone over their vital organs. Check in on one another every so often to make sure everything’s going smoothly. If you plan on doing this frequently, take a yearly class in CPR and First Aid to prepare for any unfortunate circumstances that may happen.

6. In a healthy scene, a sub should respect their dom, not fear them. If they’re afraid of using a safeword because they think the dom will be upset, the scene has been negatively compromised.

7. Take good aftercare of your partner. And remember, it’s not just subs who need it.

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